You were disliked at work, they constantly find fault. Nervous exhaustion and constant stress build up little by little and you are about to explode?If all this is about you, dear ladies, then it is likely that you are subjected to, as it is now fashionable to say, mobbing.
How not to become a victim of mobbing at work
Stop! It can’t go on like this! The current situation needs to be dealt with urgently! As usual, everything starts from nothing. But over time, the fly still becomes an elephant. And, it would seem, at first glance, innocent disputes between employees develop into conflicts of global proportions. But the most interesting thing is that this has nothing to do with your professional qualities. That is, behind all this there is only personal hostility.
Why are you being persecuted
It turns out that mobbers (your offenders) deliberately incite hatred in the team. The reasons are different. One of them may be your efficiency as an employee. Some gray mice cannot accept the fact that someone works better than them or enjoys great authority in the team. And if you accidentally got a position that someone else was counting on? Or flirted with a man who, without knowing it, is already busy with your employee? And if in addition to all this you are also happy in your personal life? In these cases, dear ladies, consider that you will definitely not be given rest. Everywhere there are envious people who lack a lot of things in life. But, unfortunately, they do not understand that the reason for all their failures is in themselves, and perhaps it is necessary to look for a log in your own eye, and not delve into someone else’s life.
Mobbers’ dirty tricks
They may, as if by chance, forget to notify you of any important detail in your work. They can damage your computer or fax.
How not to become a victim of mobbing at work
They can spread not very decent rumors about you, which, of course, have nothing to do with reality.
Result: you get nervous and therefore make mistakes. And this, as it turns out, is a wonderful excuse for your boss to snitch on you.
You are not a victim!
Since newcomers often become victims of mobbing, if you have recently changed jobs, you should, when you join a new team, try to understand what kind of atmosphere reigns in it and who breathes what. Take a closer look at your new employees. Who is twisting with whom Shura-Mura, who is a favorite of the chef, and who does not enjoy authority among colleagues at all.
Determine which of your newly -made colleagues is a leader in the team. Having established friendly relations with the leader, you will provide yourself with protection and patronage in his person.
Do not hide in a corner, like a gray mouse, and “swallow” everything that has been thrown into you. Try to seriously talk to the offender. Ask him what you have guilty and what you did wrong. It is likely that this will not immediately give the result, but still will allow him to understand that you are definitely not going to be silent.
How not to become a victim of mobbing at work
Inform the boss about the current unpleasant situation for you. Do not complain, but just try to explain that this harms the productivity of your workflow. A wise leader will definitely be able to help you, only if he himself is not an accomplice to all this atrocity.
Analyze the situation well
Think about how exactly you could deserve such an attitude from a colleague. Perhaps you are not sinless and really guilty of something?
If none of the above helps you, consider whether this work is worth the emotional effort and nerves that you spend on it every day. It might be much easier for you to just walk away.
But if you still left, let your self-esteem not suffer from this at all! Since it is still unknown which of you was lucky and who turned out to be the winner.
Almost all of our problems have found a safe haven in our subconscious. A lot of things depend not on the situation, but on its perception. If you have a lot of complexes on your “account”, they can become a kind of fruitful environment for mocking you. Therefore, it very often happens that a mobber chooses a notorious person as his victim. As a result, dear readers, learn to overcome your complexes and ignore such situations!
